Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Free Talk: Sexuality and the Spiritual Path

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A couple times a year, I like to talk about the beautiful expression of living that is sexuality. Too often, sexuality is relegated to the shadows in some spiritual traditions, but sexuality is equally embraced by the Divine as everything else. Furthermore, sexuality is a fundamental aspect of life. It keeps our species alive and thriving, so how could any true spiritual path ignore this sacred space?

In this talk, I will touch on the beauty and importance of pleasure in our lives as well as embracing a world with contraceptives--the prevalence and diversity of which is still a novelty. I'll also talk about how sexual energy can support us in spiritual awakening and how we can find areas of stuck energy within us using sexual energy. I'll talk about how sacred sexuality can ignite our energy system--awaken the Kundalini. Finally, I'll discuss how we learn to master sexual energy through openness not repression or over-indulgence, the latter of which is often driven by the animal instinctual body and not by conscious choice.

These and other topics will be part of our discussion, and I look forward to your questions and comments. While sexuality can be a way that some people get lost in their bodies and desires, if we are mindful, we can embrace our sexuality to free us from desires and pain.

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Date of Talk:

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

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6 PM Pacific Time

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Understanding Spiritual Sexuality

Monday, September 26, 2016

Expanding Into New Levels of Consciousness

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I want to start off by saying that I don't like the terms "levels." It's too problematic for most people on their spiritual journeys because most people are immature and think that there's somewhere to get to. If today I say there are 100 levels of consciousness, then somebody is going to think they have to get to level 100 to be safe, complete, happy, or something else. That's part of the sickness of the ego self right now; it's never happy with how things are. Things always need to be different, although I suppose there are some egos that are happy to sink into a swamp of laziness. But that's a different set of issues.

So if you can let go of the concept that levels matter or that one level is better than another, then we can have an intelligent conversation about how we expand into new levels of consciousness. Perhaps new is problematic too because these levels of consciousness have always been here. But I suppose it's new to your sense of self as a human being. It's kind of like recycled clothing only consciousness is never full of holes; it's just holy. :)

Okay, that ought to be enough of a primer. Clearly, as you grow and heal, your abilities of perception about yourself and others expand. You perceive greater levels of connection with life, greater levels of love, and greater levels of clarity. Your consciousness opens up. This is more or less what I mean by a new level of consciousness. It's almost like if we evolved our eyes to see more of the light spectrum. What was once hidden and unseeable is now as obvious as a tree standing in front of us. This is the beauty of spiritual growth, but it can require an adjustment time for the human self to catch up with what you are now perceiving so that you can understand how to be with that information.

The First Thing to do is Nothing

Monday, September 19, 2016

Getting off the Spiritual Plateau

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It's time to expand our spiritual vocabulary again. Too often we get stuck inheriting words that don't really explain things, so it's up to us to make our words work for us. This is part of mastering our lives rather than being caged by the beliefs and definitions given to us. So today, we'll add the term "spiritual plateau" into our spiritual lexicon, and I think a few of you will really appreciate having this term.

Firstly, I'm not talking about being spiritually stuck. Most part aren't even started in their inner growth. Even those who have been on a spiritual path for 30 years are often just going through the motions rather than being moved by the inner intelligence inside them. That kind of stuckness isn't a plateau. It's not even started climbing the mountain. I'm also not talking about a spiritual rest period. Sometimes, things get very quiet in our spiritual journey, but if you're in a spiritual rest phase there is still this movement. There's just not a lot of chop in the waters, so you are flowing along without any major inner challenges to disturb those waters.

What I am talking about is after a spiritual awakening, there can be a point where things just stop moving. It's usually the result of resistance, and that resistance comes with a variety of ego motives. Usually fear is at the root of them all, but they can include not feeling like you have the space to go into issues. You may not trust yourself. You may not like where you think things are headed, and you may feel enormously uncomfortable and just want the discomfort to end. So the individual holds on and stops doing any kind of inner work as soon as things seem settled enough to stay wherever they are internally and externally. This can be particularly true for people who have had a lot of physical pain come up. The minute things calm down, they'll often stop all work because they don't want to deal with the physical pain again that may come with deeper healing and spiritual growth.

Unfortunately, this can put people into a no-person's land where you kinda know and feel the truth, but you're cut off from a lot of yourself. It makes how you perceive the world very strange and a little contorted. You aren't seeing clearly in this space. It's like one eye is open and the other is closed, and that creates confusion and misinterpretations of life that can be enough to drive you back towards doing your inner work.


Allowing Rest Periods in Your Spiritual Growth

Monday, September 12, 2016

Lying to Yourself and Perceiving Lies in People's Energy

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Lies.

We're surrounded by them. We're so inundated with lies, half-truths, and twisted beliefs that many people don't know what is real or true anymore. Some people may even give up and believe that nothing is real in a nihilistic sort of way. This giving up can occasionally lead someone to the real truth, but more often, it creates a constantly recycling state of depression, anxiety, or anger because deep down the person knows there is something real in this world.

But what is it?

The only way to know what is true is to unmask your own lies. We have been taught to be master liars. We tell ourselves all kinds of lies everyday, and we have gotten so used to them that these beliefs are hidden. They are hidden as commonsense or just "the way things are." Because of this when someone occasionally speaks the truth like me, I'm considered either a prophet or a madman. But I have no ownership of the truth and no special powers to see it that you do not. I simply did the one thing that many people have not done--investigated and faced my own self-lies.

With this deeper sensitivity to your own lies, it becomes more obvious when other people are lying or half-truthful. But it is best to focus on yourself first. As Jesus said in Mathew 7:3, “And why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" That "log" limits your perceptions and interpretation abilities of what is going on around you. You may even be so blind that you are just looking at your own blindness that you project onto others. Certainly, it is easier to notice the problems and lies others are stuck in, but if you are not out of the mud yourself, it is absurd to tell others that they are stuck in mud.

For my energy sensitive friends, you may notice that people's energy tells you a lot. If someone says something that doesn't match with their energy, you may sense this lie, this mismatch. This energetic mismatch can be an intentional lie, but more often, it is an unintentional lie. However, it can be jarring and confusing to sense these mismatches. Another way to look at it is as if the person just said two different answers to one question. If someone says "yes" and "no," which answer do you respond to? This is an interesting issue that can also come up, so I wanted to address this and other aspects of uncovering lies in this spiritual awakening blog post.

Rehearsing the Big Lie

Monday, September 5, 2016

Why Spiritual Awakening Can Make People Solitary

Many people have an image of the spiritual path as inherently solitary. They think that the only way to "achieve enlightenment" is to go it alone, but that is simply not the case. The spiritual path is always around us and within us. There is no where you can go where it is not. You can certainly go where life is hard and dangerous, but that is not separate from the spiritual path. Until we can see all of life as interconnected, as one, we will not heal as a people, and we'll collectively make the same mistakes again and again. In this way, understanding that wherever you are is the perfect spiritual path for you is crucial to evolving out of the unconscious madness from which a lot of the world operates.

With that said, spiritual awakening can draw people towards solitude from time to time. This can arise for a number of reasons including but not limited to:

  • The person is naturally a solitary person;
  • The person needs time and space to heal;
  • The person needs to face fears of being alone; and
  • The person is running away from their triggers.

Obviously, the last one is not a healthy reason, but it happens a lot for those people who are highly sensitive. They come to the conclusion that nowhere but on their own is safe. Certainly, a highly sensitive person (or empath, if you prefer that term) can do some important healing on his or her own, but my point stands about being interconnected to all of life. Running away is ultimately an attempt to run away from ourselves. This leads to an important question about what it is you are running away from. As we go inwards, we realize that it is our own discomfort and our hidden issues that we are attempting to avoid. When we resolve those things, even highly sensitive people can be at peace with others in just about any situation. I do leave space for truly horrific situations in the latter statement I made, but that is typically not what is going for most people.

With all this said, let's talk about the solitary aspect of healing and growth after a spiritual awakening, when it's time to go it alone, and when it's time to rejoin society.

All By Yourself, Don't Want to Be All By Yourself

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Recording: Confronting Core Issues

I'm sure many of you have heard me mention core issues before, so I directed this talk right at them. Core issues are things like fear of the unknown, fear of being socially rejected/outcast, self-hatred/lack of self worth, trauma, and other big monsters that define your whole outlook on life as well as your way of living.

Most of our initial spiritual work is just clearing the ground to dig down and root out these beasts. It's not fun work, but it is immensely rewarding work. So long as a core issue like self-hatred has a foothold inside you, it will find ways to grow back. Core issues like to re-generate. If you feel like you keep grappling with similar problems again and again, then it's time to grab a pickax and get to work. Undoubtedly a core issue is happily re-growing itself, and it'll continue to do so unless you really go find it and meet it head on.

Of course, this kind of work tends to lead to dramatic life changes. How it could it not? If your whole sense of self is built on a lie, then you've probably created a whole life full of falsities to reinforce this original lie. Thus, when you do get working on core issues, you should expect a lot of changes to come in the external world. This is all part of reclaiming your life. Otherwise, you will remain trapped by your own issues.

I hope you enjoy the recording below. I welcome your comments.

Confronting Core Issues Recording



Date of Recording:

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Time:

10:30 AM Pacific Time

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Monday, August 29, 2016

Being at Peace With Pain

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Being at peace with pain is possibly one of the highest orders of spiritual maturity. In a world that is so full of pain and suffering, the concept of being at peace with pain is probably a foreign one to many of you. Firstly, I need to remind everyone of how I am defining these terms. Pain is a communication tool of the heart-body-mind. It's telling you that something is wrong. If you step on a tack, the physical pain is telling you that you should check your foot and remove the tack. Without that pain, you could cause more damage to your foot. Simply put, physical pain is a part of this world. There's no way around that.

Suffering is when we ignore pain and/or continue to do actions that cause pain. If we don't check our feet when we step on tacks and continue to walk, we'll cause more damage to our feet. We'll suffer. Additionally, suffering is caused by psychological issues such as wanting life to be different than it is. This psychological pain can cause enormous suffering both in terms of attempting to change things in us and the external world to "make us happy" emotionally. There are also physical repercussions of trying to change ourselves and others. For example, a lot of people use alcohol and drugs to try to change their feelings and alleviate emotional suffering. These actions rarely work, and when they do seem to work, the relief from suffering is short-lived. Sometimes, we can even delude ourselves into believing that we've fixed an issue that was "causing" suffering to us, but invariably it comes back until we get to the root cause. Thus, part of the way out of suffering is to see things as they are, and this includes accepting pain.

And there's a lot of pain of all kinds to accept. There is the physical pain you may endure, and there is seeing the suffering and pain others must endure. To be sure, the pain of something like hunger may be difficult to be at peace with, but we can be at peace with it. Otherwise, psychological suffering can make a difficult situation truly unbearable and far harder to address. Thus, being at peace with pain is a hugely important step to resolving the pains that can be resolved and alleviating the suffering from the pains that simply must be endured.

Beginning to Notice Pain

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