Wednesday, January 27, 2016

9 Steps to Mindfully Deal With Another's Anger

One of the most challenging experiences for many people is handling people who are angry at them. When someone is angry at you and blaming you for something, it can trigger all kinds of internal responses. Some people respond fearfully and want to run away. Others respond fearfully, but then turn it into anger and fight back verbally or physically. Others can freeze up entirely. In many respects, dealing with an angry person can strip us right down to our most basic, animalistic impulses.

But obviously, we can do better. We can offer other people more mindful responses even if they aren't offering the same. If we don't, then we will simply continue the cycles of pain and suffering that are gripping this world.

Cycles of Pain and Suffering

On this note, let's talk about some mindful steps to deal with angry people and potentially shift relationships towards healthier interactions.

What Is Anger?

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Coming Home to the Infinite Within You

Life is change for the human being. It's always growing, declining, dying, and being born. It is an inevitable aspect of life for us. Yet many people attempt to use spirituality to avoid this undeniable human truth. They hope to find some form of safe comfort in the external world, and thus, many spiritual seekers are essentially refugees from this truth. This happens for innumerable reasons, but mainly, it happens because people fear pain and death.

But pain and death are here. And no "home" can be so safe that it is devoid of these things.

As people mature on the spiritual path, we learn to let go of this kind of seeking. We seek refuge in spirituality by letting go of "home" and residing in the changeless space that embraces all this change. This is what I mean when I say that we come home to the infinite within us. We cannot deny change in our human forms. Rather, we can embrace the infinite love, presence, and serenity that we are all part of, and through that depth, we accept all the pain, death, hate, love, joy, ecstasy, and everything else that comes up in human life. We accept all of it as part of our home.

Wanting to go Home

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Sessions for January, Coming Home, and Thank You's!

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I'll start this spirituality post with my sincerest "thank you's" to everyone who has offered support to me in some way since the apartment complex fire that took me into a new major life transition. It has truly warmed my heart to have support from so many. That includes the friend who has taken me in to his home for the short-term while I look for a new place to live, my partner who has tirelessly helped in any way she could, one of my students who has helped me pack among other things, and all of the people who have donated to help me. Thank you!

In regards to donations, I have received over $4400 since I started fundraising in November. Little did I know that my fundraising campaign would essentially become a disaster relief fund. I really appreciate the financial support many of you have offered to me as I look for a new place to live. It really is helping to ease the transition.

Coming Home

Monday, November 30, 2015

Out of Touch Due to an Apt Complex Fire

I'm posting this quick blog post to let you know that I've lost my home due to an apartment complex fire. You can see part of what happened to my apartment.

Most importantly, I am unhurt, and a good friend is letting me stay in his guest house. But a lot of my possessions have been smoke-damaged or contaminated by whatever may have been burned during the fire. So I'll need to replace them after finding a new home.

Please expect a delay in my communications and responses to your emails. If you want to help out, please donate. My fundraising drive is officially a disaster relief fund now.

Monday, November 23, 2015

2015 Fundraising Update

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I want to start this post by thanking all of you who have donated to me so far for my 2015 fundraiser. At the time of writing this post, 31 people have donated a total of a little over $2,100 to help me cover this year's financial shortfall. Thank you so much! It really warms my heart to have such amazing supporters.

For those who don't know, I'm working on raising $6,500 to cover a financial deficit that I'll have this year. With the current donations being where they are, I still need about $4,400 more in donations.

This money is going to cover my cost of living. That's rent, food, healthcare insurance, and so on. By donating to me, this financial support also gives me the flexibility to continue to work with my suggested donation rate that I use. This rate structure allows students to donate whatever works for them rather than imposing a set fee that all students have to meet. Because I often receive small donations for sessions, this can create a shortfall for me. As I've developed my practice, students who are in a financial position to donate the full amount for a session have filled in the gaps more and more to balance everything out.

I'm just not quite there yet.

Please Donate

If you are moved to donate, please click on the "Donate" button on the right hand side of the blog. I have a mailing address you can use if you'd prefer to send a check, but PayPal is my preferred means of receiving donations. If you have questions or want to send a donation by mail, you can contact me through my contact form.

Thanks once again to all of your for your support. I couldn't offer this work without you!

In love and kindness,


Sunday, November 22, 2015

Webinar: Holiday Giving and Receiving

As the holidays roll around once again in the Western world, the practice of giving and receiving comes to the forefront of everyone's minds. Why we need one season in a year to focus on reciprocity is a little silly though. The entire year is an opportunity to give and receive selflessly and deeply. But cultural practices being what they are, people remember that giving and receiving is something that they should put time and focus into in November and December in Western Culture. So I'll discuss this practice in this next free webinar to help shed some light on ways we can mindfully give and receive as well as offer tips on dealing with feeling obligated to give, not liking what we receive, and so forth.

I'll also discuss how the spiritual path changes our views of holidays. Upon awakening, many of you realize that everything is made up. This most certainly includes holidays. How and if you engage with holidays is now a very different thing, especially if you're still surfing in the bliss stage where all of life and each moment is a gift.

With all that said, please fill out the form below to sign up for free for my last 2015 webinar. I look forward to having you!

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For some additional thoughts about spiritual awakening and the holidays, check out this blog post:

Spiritual Awakening and the Holidays


30 to 40 minute talk. Then a 30 to 20 minute question and answer session.


Wednesday, December 2, 2015


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Monday, November 16, 2015

Spirituality Snacks: Ego Stories

I occasionally receive extremely long emails from people telling me their whole life stories. While I am honored that people can be so open with me, it can be disappointing for some of them that I am uninterested in those tall tales. Because it is a tall tale. Our ego stories are conglomerations of very few events while we have forgotten numerous other events and situations that have not fit into our overall idea of ourselves. For instance, trauma survivors sometimes forget or don't see kindness because the ego is seeing everything through the lens of trauma. As such, their story about themselves can be a long miserable story that excludes many good and kind things that happened to them along the way. This can seem impossible, but trust me, it happens.

The reverse is true to. People can be overly "positive" and try to construct stories about how great their lives are. But upon investigation some people discover that their lives have not been very happy. Some people--in the midst of their seemingly content ego story--suddenly realize that they are utterly devastated because they have not been following their hearts. At which point, the person has to either ignore and repress their truth or start to give up their ego story.

It is hard for people earlier on their paths to hear that their ego stories are really not that interesting. Most of the time, these personal belief systems greatly limit or painfully constrict us through this self-definition. People say that these past events and stories "make" them who they are, but more often than not, those stories limit them from being so much more.

So any time you feel yourself getting caught up in telling someone your life story, pause and take a breath. Come back to the present moment and see who you really are right now without any story.

More Blog Posts to Help You Illuminate Ego Stories

The Humbling of the Ego

Emptying Out Your Ego

You Will Always Have An Ego

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