Wednesday, June 1, 2011
For All My Relations
Being in Relationship with Everyone
The word "relationship" is such a complex and yet simple word. When I think of relationships I am immediately reminded of the Lakota phrase, "Mitakuye Oyasin" (Mit-awk-wi-awsin). The phrase means, "For all my relations", and it is often said with gratitude to our ancestors during various Native American ceremonies. Mitakuye Oyasin also reminds us that we are all interconnected and in relationship with everyone.
A Part of the Whole
A special person in my life recently helped me see a whole other meaning to the Native American phrase, Mitakuye Oyasin. I am in relation to everyone in every moment, whether happy or not. For example, there was a happy occasion between myself and another. That joyous event would not have happened if I was not "A Part" of it. The moment between that person and I would not be the same if I was not there. In contrast, I could have a disagreement with that same person with the relationship being changed just as equally. No blame is given, but that event would not happen if I was not "A Part" of it. These examples helped me realize that I am equally in relationship to everyone else in all moments. We are all parts of the whole when we take responsibility. Perception of the event is the only thing that gets in the way.
Letting Go and Accepting Relationships
As I continued to contemplate the infinite ways we take part in each other's lives, I looked upon the relationships in my life. I came to understand that some relationships cannot support me in my spiritual growth. The old foundations, simply cannot hold these relationships. If one person is not ready to be in a new foundation, they will cling onto the relationship or walk away. Much of this is the ego just screaming out for help in the form of an angry letter, phone call, etc. As we let go of the unhealthy attachments in our lives, it also forces other people to do the same.
Although these relationships may fall apart, it does not have to be dramatic. They simply flow out of my life effortlessly. I trust that Spirit will either cycle these people back into my life or they will not. Eventually, letting go of a harmful relationship with a close family member or friend can feel as effortless as letting go of a relationship with an acquaintance one hardly knows.
This process of letting go has given space for new and more stable foundations to form in return. It has been a pleasant and unexpected surprise to see who drifts into and out of my life. These people have given me the space to allow myself to remember how to own my heart, body, and mind.
It Is Okay To Be Human
Being more aware of my spiritual path doesn't mean I will always feel like frolicking in fields of flowers. Life can be messy at times, and that is fine. Sometimes I just might feel frustrated or angry. I do know, though, that those destructive emotions flow easier when I ask myself questions about where the source of such emotions arise from.
I encourage you to keep in mind that we are in relationship to everyone and everything around us, whether we feel we are actively participating in it or not. Being human, being our authentic selves, all the time, benefits everyone. Mitakuye Oyasin.
Susan started to cultivate a deeper relationship with the Creator four years ago when she was introduced to the works of Eckhart Tolle's, "The Power of Now" by Jim Tolles. Her life has been transformed in countless ways since then.